I read an article earlier, and I honestly can’t find it again, that made me feel so much better about myself. I really thought I was the only one who hated 50 Shades of Grey.

Maybe hate is a little harsh. Maybe not. No matter what I only read the first book. There were so many things within the book that I just couldn’t swallow to read another word.

Do you remember your first time? Maybe it was in the back of a car, or your parents’ couch, or if you were lucky a bed. My guess is your first time was awkward, uncomfortable, and strange. I’m also going to guess it was pretty vanilla. And that afterward you were pretty vanilla with sex for a while. Maybe it’s just me, but my assumption is you have to figure out how to have sex before you can decide what you like.

I’ve never been involved in a BDSM relationship. It’s not something that interests me. I don’t write about them because I don’t know them and because I struggle to see where there is love in a relationship built on control. Some people enter into these relationships with someone they know and trust and love. But that relationship is built on something other than sex. A relationship built on sex alone, which is what I saw in Fifty Shades of Grey, is not one that will last.

I’m not trying to bash the writer or the people who enjoyed the book. Everyone reads a book and gets something different out of it. In my mind the relationship between Ana and Christian crossed the line to domestic abuse. In the real world, a relationship like theirs would be one where he could get rid of her and no one would ever know because he’s made of money. On top of that, she couldn’t ever go to the cops because of the contract.

The whole thing just bugged me. I bought into the hype and had to see for myself what it was all about. In all honesty, I could have gone the rest of my life without ever reading that book.

Oh, and if she ‘shattered’ one more time, I thought I was going to lose it.

If you choose to go see it, I’d be curious to know what you think. If you read the book, let me know if you think they did a good job with the movie. I know the book is always better, but let me know what you think!