One of the hardest parts of any break-up is taking a chance again. You let someone in the first time, and they broke you. Being willing to try again, to risk your heart, isn’t easy. It never will be.
Do you remember the first moment you saw someone you liked? That brief flash of attraction. Some people say it feels like a spark. Maybe it was like a burst of warmth. Or a light. Whatever it was, there was something different. It wasn’t like meeting a friend of your parents’ or a teacher. It was different, special.
That feeling, that spark, is what you need to imagine first. Remember it. Feel it. Embrace it. When you can think of that feeling without immediately thinking of the pain that came when it all ended, then you’re ready to start over.
Hell no. Love isn’t easy. Even great love isn’t easy. There will always be hard days. But the excitement of something new and the love that follows when it’s right make up for all the hard times.
Letting yourself feel that first spark isn’t conscious, but accepting that you actually did feel it is. How many times have you thought a guy liked you so you convinced yourself he was cute? Or you saw a guy checking you out and convinced yourself he had to like you?
Have you ever not noticed someone?
It’s easy to ignore the signs right in front of you. It’s easy to tell yourself you’re making things up, that he doesn’t really like you. Especially when you’re too scared to believe in love again.
The first step is being open. Smile at someone you don’t know today. Say hi to a cute guy. Or a cute girl. You don’t have to fall in love with the person, just let yourself feel something. Let yourself be open to letting someone else in. Once you do that, you’re ready to try for love again.
Chances are you’ll fall in love more than once before you find the one person who will make you happy for the rest of your life. It’s hard to walk away and try again and again. It’s hard to think the next person you say yes to might not be the one, or the next. But every single time you get your heart broken, you need to get to the point where you are open to someone again. Where you let someone in. Where you give yourself permission to fall in love again. And maybe that next one will be the one that lasts forever.
How do you say yes to love again?
She knew wine. It made sense. Everything worked. But men? She couldn’t figure them out to save her life. He was simple though. He made sense for her.