I was always curvy. I developed before all my friends. I looked like a teenager when I was barely in middle school. I was offered wine in a restaurant when I was eighteen, without being carded. I looked older my whole life. But I was still a kid.
My own kids are entering that pre-teen age. The difference in my eleven year old daughter and my nine year old son are becoming more apparent. When she acts like a kid and doesn’t listen, it’s more frustrating because she’s miles more mature than he is, but she’s still only eleven. It’s something I have to work on having more patience with because she should still be a kid sometimes.
I had my first kiss at thirteen. My first boyfriend at the same time. But my second boyfriend came when I was seventeen. I liked other boys, but it wasn’t until my second boyfriend that I started to realize how to act in a relationship, and what a relationship really meant. That we should be friends and something more. That we should be able to talk about more than superficial stuff. That he should be someone I trusted.
That I had to be patient to find the right person.
My second boyfriend wasn’t the right person for me. It was another four years before I met the man who was right for me. But we built a friendship first. It was a friendship based on flirting and getting to know each other, but we were friends. When I asked him out, and he said no (he was going home from college for the weekend to see his family), it didn’t end things. It took a while for us to find a day we could finally go out, but I was patient. I’d learned a long time ago that patience was something us curvy girls had in spades.
Patience taught me not to kiss every boy who liked my curves.
Patience taught me not to do things I wasn’t ready for.
Patience taught me waiting for the right thing is never time wasted.
I fell hard for my husband. He was the one I was supposed to wait for, and he was well worth the wait. He showed me that patience in everything is a good thing, but going for what you want is good, too.
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Mack knows he wants Scarlett, but the timing had to be right. After a false start, they’re both ready for something new. Something special. Something together.